Parents: Q & A

Why should I talk with my children about sex and sexuality? 

It is important that children from the beginning understand and feel good about their sexuality. This will help them with their feelings, peer pressure, and relationships. Young adults will be less likely to make sexual risks if they: have a positive view of their sexuality, basic information regarding positive and negative outcomes of sex, information concerning their sexual health, know family and personal values, have self-esteem and confidence, and understand that their actions affect themselves and others. Parents should not rely on a one-time simple conversation; parents should want to be the primary source of information concerning sex and sexuality. Once these discussions have begun, help your son/daughter know that it is okay for them to come to you at ANY time, help them understand themselves, help them feel comfortable, and allow them to express concerns and ask questions to ensure that they are receiving accurate information.

When should I talk with my children about sex and sexuality?

Start the discussions when you think it is the right time. Many parents feel it is important to discuss sex and sexuality with their children before they enter junior high school, because they want to be the source of their information - not their peers, bus, locker room, etc. Just remember, you never want to play catch up. Keep the discussions consistent and on a regular basis. You want your children to feel comfortable, not embarrassed, and open to ask questions and express their concerns. As a parents, share your experiences or fears. Using other sources such as movies, shows, and books is helpful to add to your conversations

How do I begin this type of conversation?

Yes, sex is an uncomfortable topic - for you and your child. That is why it is easier to use everyday moments to prompt the conversation with your child - Advertisements (models - body image, self-esteem), Magazines, TV show character going through puberty, relative or friend is pregnant. Think about different things happening in your family's lives in order to add to the conversation. Think of questions you would like to ask your son/daughter. Possibly make a list of your opinions, values, experiences, etc to share with your child. Take is slow and one step at a time! It may be hard at first for your child to open up. Also remember, children learn by observation!

Don't just "have the talk"; Teach your children about Sex Education and all the aspects involved

FACT: Our children will not be more likely to have sex if we talk about it. In reality, the children who talk with their parents about sex are more likely to postpone having sex even longer.